All of my life, my family told me that I was special. Being the only child growing up in the house, my parents always treated me like the golden child. The winning ticket. The special priority. All of that. Anyways, what do you do if all your life you’ve been living as if you were different, and then you find yourself in a situation where it feels like everyone is just like you? It happened twice, the feeling of being small. And it really sucked. The first, was when I was in Los Angeles, the city of Angels. Here I was, a singer/songwriter (with an impeccable sense of style if I c ould say so myself) and all that surrounded me were more singer/songwriters… it all happened in a second of a moment, I wanted to start hyperventilating. I seriously felt so small! As if my “special” became void. I was in my first major course class and it happened again. That feeling of incompetence. As the teacher started asking each student what they wanted to do in their careers, everyone started sounding repetitive, as if we were all going to be applying for the same job. I went home that night and started crying, because how am is still supposed to be so special if there seems like there is nothing special about me.

So… I wanted to write this to help anyone else out there who decided to follow their passion but are stuck in a place where they lose themselves and their special because of lack of truly knowing themselves.

1. Know Yourself

If you do not truly understand who you are, then you are capable of falling for anything. I had to come to a point where I didn’t tag who I was to what everyone else was saying about me. If it was good or bad, I had to realize who I was for myself.

2. Surround yourself with people who are on your team

One of the biggest blessings I have is my friends. No matter where I am located, I know I can always call one of them. I know that they will always have encouraging words for me and support me in all my endeavors.

3. What is the IT Factor?

What is it that makes you special? Figure out what it is, what you were CALLED to do. There is literally only one person like you on this planet, and in this universe. Spending quiet time with yourself, and asking the deep questions about your life and your purpose is going to set you apart. And then when you figure IT out, you keep working and you never stop. You can’t sit on your purpose for too long. J.Cole said something that was super powerful in one of his songs. “Even If you let them kill your dreams, it will haunt you.” If you don’t follow that strong calling on your life, then what you “could have been” will always haunt you. There are going to be so many people that will be in the same field as you YOUR WHOLE LIFE! However “Many are called. But few are chosen” … and that is determined by your work ethic.

4. Pray

When it all becomes way too much to handle. If it seems as if you feel lost or as if you don’t have anyone around, you gotta pray. It isn’t going to always be easy, but it will get better in the end.